Taking a Sabbath from Sunday

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Let’s face it. It would be easier to skip church on Sundays. Admit it. And yet, the reason we put in the work and effort to attend church on Sunday mornings far outweighs the challenges that we face in getting there. Ginger Hughes, writing for Nurturing Faith Publishing, describes it in a way that many of us can understand and appreciate.

'The Sunday Challenge’ by Ginger Hughes

In just a couple of hours, my house will most likely look as though something exploded.

How do I know? Because it happens almost every week.

Tiny shoes will be dumped out of the basket and onto the floor of the closet in an attempt to find matches. Clothes will be strewn in the bedroom as I try to help the kids get dressed only to realize they’ve grown two inches, and the clothes I’d laid out suddenly don’t fit any longer. The bathroom counter will be littered with hair bows and brushes as we try to tame tresses. Half-eaten cereal bowls will be left on display as we forget them in our mad dash to get ready.

And to top it all off, my ears will be ringing from all of the opinions my kiddos have slung my way: “This shirt is too itchy, Mama! These pants are too scratchy! My hair looks silly like this, Mama!!!”

Yes, Sunday mornings are hectic.

They’re chaotic.

They require “work” to get everyone ready and to church on time (or thereabouts!). And sometimes, after a long week, it’s natural to just want to stay home. It’s natural to want to forgo the challenges of getting ready to go one more place and adding one more thing to the already overbooked schedule.

But if we choose to stay home, we miss out on so many things and so do our children.

We miss out on the experience of collective worship: the act of joining our voices together with fellow believers to sing songs of praise, the bowing of heads knowing that God promises “Where two or three are gathered in my name there I am in their midst,” the listening to scripture being read and allowing it space in our hearts.

And our children miss these things as well, even if they are very young.

They miss singing “Jesus Loves Me” and learning that Jesus does indeed love them. They miss simple prayers and learning the stories that will become the foundation of their faith.

Because friends, our children know what we value by watching us.

They know what we think is important by observing where we spend our money and where we spend our time.

Do my children know that faith is important to me? I hope so.

I want my children to hear me pray. I want them to see me read scripture. I want them to see me live out Jesus’ command to love our neighbor. And I want them to see me put forth the effort to go to worship.

I want them to know that faith is the foundation of my life, so I will do the “work” to get us there.

Please join me this week. I’ll save you a seat.

Ginger Hughes is the wife of a pastor, a mother of two and an accountant. She is a Georgia native currently living in the foothills of North Carolina. Her passion for writing is fueled by the desire to offer encouragement, grace and a deeper understanding that we are all God’s children. Her blogging for Nurturing Faith is sponsored by a gift from First Baptist Church of Gainesville, Ga. Published April 29, 2018.

The Hole in Our Prayer Life

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You’ve heard this one before:

A man was late for an important meeting and couldn’t find a parking spot. As he frantically circled the block, the man became so desperate that he began to pray. Looking up to heaven he said:

“Lord, have pity on me. If you find me a parking place, I’ll promise to never miss church again. Not only that, I’ll stop my cussing, my gambling, my drinking and my carousing.”

Miraculously, a parking space appeared.

The guy looked up again and said, “Never mind. I found one.”

Isn’t it convenient that our prayer life expects everything without actually contributing anything? I think it was Flip Wilson who once said,

“I’m gonna pray now; anyone want anything?”

Parents, imagine what it would feel like if the only contact that you had with your children was when they were asking for something (it occurs to me that this may be hitting a little too close to home).

The patterns, motives and content of our prayer lives may reveal something unsavory about the health of our souls. It may be time to consider our vital signs:

-For what do you find yourself praying?
-When and how frequently do you pray for these things?
-Have you noticed a correlation or spike in the frequency of your prayers when you need or desire something?
-What have you offered to God?

I fear that if left unchecked our prayer life will reveal a self-centered attitude with God. Our prayers may just reveal ourselves to be superficial and selfish, dictatorial and presumptive. In the framework of Jesus’s breathtaking prayer at Gethsemane, we pray for our will to be done—and we’re foolishly hopeful that God will change His will to accommodate our own.

Y’all, this is not how the ‘created’ are supposed to talk to their Creator. Repentance, humility and respect for God’s Divine Presence seems to be in order, here.

A holy posture of listening to God could be a good first step in strengthening our relationship with Him. In short, we may just be doing too much talking and not enough listening. ‘Monologuing’ with your spouse or best friend may be cathartic, but it doesn’t reveal a particularly healthy or balanced relationship. Just as we would bristle at a friendship where someone simply talks at us, we would be wise to consider that our relationship with God has got to be more than our litany of needs and concerns.

God wants more from us than our to-do lists.

I suspect, however, that the reason we don’t listen to God is because we don’t want to hear what God may have to say to us. That’s also probably why we no longer read the Bible like we should, or why we get so defensive when someone challenges our way of thinking.

Besides, listening is hard work. To be a good and effective listener, we’ve got to yield to the Other. We’ve got to sacrifice our right to fill the silence. Listening means that we tune out the myriad of other competing voices and claims on us. Listening means choosing to be present. Listening means letting go of our fantasies—past, present and future. Listening means creating space to consider and reconsider.

Gratitude and praise are forms of listening. By acknowledging that for which we are thankful, we are looking and listening for the ways God has been present with us. By praising God, we place him above ourselves and naturally turning our attention to the One who has a claim on us.

If I may be confessional, I will gladly admit that as a pastor listening is the most important thing I do each day and by far the hardest thing I do each day. Why? Listening takes time and the right attitude. It means making myself available to the Spirit of God and to others. In truth, it would be easier to see my tasks and responsibilities as a kind of punch-sheet, and hammer away to achieve that delicious moment of completion and accomplishment. But doing so would mean that my work would be my own. Listening means yielding. And I find that my work is far more effective when it is Spirit-filled and Divinely-inspired. In order for God to be present in my offering of service, I’ve got to first listen to Him.

Mother Teresa, I believe, says it best of all:

“Prayer is not asking. Prayer is putting oneself in the hands of God, at his disposition, and listening to his voice in the depths of our hearts.”

Perhaps we should ask for something when we pray—open ears and hearts to listen to God’s voice. 

Take a Hike

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Join us for a hike on Sunday afternoon, April 29th! Enjoy God’s creation and the gift of fellowship as we hike in our beautiful mountains. Everyone is invited to join us on the path. 

The hike will last no more than 90 minutes and will have gentle terrain and little elevation gain. A water bottle, snack, hiking stick and weather-appropriate clothing are all that you might need. We will meet in the church parking lot at 3:00 PM and will return no later than 7:00 PM. 

In keeping with our theme of Path: Walking Humbly With Our God, we will be taking a monthly hike together throughout the year. If you have questions, contact Jeff. 

Greening Up the Mountains

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Greening Up The Mountains will be on Saturday, April 28th in Downtown Sylva! We will need assistance as we provide hospitality to our community. We will need assistance with purchasing supplies, volunteering to give things out and assist with restrooms. 

Items needed:  Popcorn kernels and oil, sno-cone mix, balloons. 

Contact Tom (828-497-3677 or tsgraham1@gmail.com) or Marina Graham (304-575-2509 or marinahunley3@gmail.com)